This is my
forth blog discussing the pre mother me; the woman with strong views and opinions
about how one should parent. The realities of which have proved very different.
Read n to find out more about the forth thing I thought I would never do as a mother,
but now do all the time; shout!
The
“pre-mother me” was simply going to set out the rules, rewards and consequences
clearly. So that when my child misbehaved I could calmly explain that the
behaviour wasn’t acceptable and indicate what behaviour I would like to see
instead. They would then have a consequence (in our case, the naughty step). I
would then tell my child I love them and then we would go back to baking.
Every day I
still wish I could be more like this. But I am not. The truth is I have a
temper anyway, I have never been an image of calm and serenity so to expect
myself to turn into someone else was just unrealistic. Don’t get me wrong I
have never smacked my child but I no longer judge those that choose to because
I understand why people feel it is necessary. My oldest daughter who is 3 now
tries to put me on the naughty step, so that just shows how well that’s working
for us.
Children
seem to have an innate inability to listen, especially when it comes to safety
issues. Most of the time when I shout it comes from a place of fear. I don’t
want my oldest child to pick her baby sister up by the neck, but after saying
it calmly 100 times I do tend to lose my temper!
It’s not something I like doing and I will
keep trying not to but the reality is that it’s easier said than done at times.
Read next week’s blog for my fifth and final motherhood
reality check before I set my self the
challenge to become the mother I always
wanted to be!
